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shipping prefs & kink list.
ROMANCE
preface
Obviously, none of what's outlined below is set-in-stone rules of engagement about shipping with Rudbeckia – sometimes chemistry happens where you weren't expecting it! But I personally find it easier to throw ideas around when I have some handle on what the other player is interested in and what situations their character meshes best with, so I thought it might help someone else to provide that myself too.
This is information regarding both what I personally enjoy playing, as well as what to expect from Ruby in shipping scenarios. If you want to jump into a thread with some assumed CR, hopefully this is useful! For info about general appearance and demeanour, see here.
This is information regarding both what I personally enjoy playing, as well as what to expect from Ruby in shipping scenarios. If you want to jump into a thread with some assumed CR, hopefully this is useful! For info about general appearance and demeanour, see here.
pairs well with...
preferences
This is just some TL;DR about my personal shipping interests. For a quick list of what I do and don't like, scroll past to the table below!
- First and most important: With Rudbeckia, romance will almost always start out as fake for her. (With rare exceptions in specific established dynamics for AU scenarios.) She might pretend to be interested, or even in love, but this is a survival mechanism. While I'm happy to assume some early CR to get the ball rolling, I am generally not interested in skipping so far ahead that Ruby's feelings have become wholly genuine. She's a slow burn type of gal by necessity.
- In regards to her lies: I do mostly prefer for characters to not initially be aware Ruby is lying to them, unless it's an AU where they already know her very well. I don't have a problem with a character being able to twig that something is wrong with her from behaviours like her skittishness, so long as they don't figure everything out too quickly, because that's half the fun! But I'm always open to discussion on this.
- When Ruby does eventually love someone, that person is the only thing in the world that matters to her. With the life she's had, morals have always been a luxury she can't afford; as a result, as long as the person she's with loves her, she really doesn't care about anything else. You can be a murderer just as long as she knows beyond any doubt that you'll never hurt her. The rest of the world can burn, for all she cares.
- While I like my ships to have their cute moments, I'm not particularly interested in purely wholesome romances; I need some element of conflict in the early stages of a ship for it to pique my interest, and even once issues have been resolved, I prefer things to be a little twisted – one or both of them being too codependent, or a power dynamic that underlies the relationship, or a corruption of morals... Fun things like that! ♥ I prefer when characters are in love and happy but there's just something fucked up about it.
- On that note, I don't like slice of life or comedy as an overall genre. It doesn't have to be all doom and gloom, all the time – I'm not that much of an edgelord!! But I won't go for something where the concept itself is intended to be SOL/comedy, or that leans very heavily on that.
- Ruby doesn't pair very well with characters who are simply, uncomplicatedly kind. I find that the cinnamon rolls and the plucky shounen hero types just aren't a very engaging match for her, and the relationship would be a flat and static one. She isn't someone who can easily accept others, and she doesn't easily believe others can accept her. In her eyes, she's a dark and twisted person, and thrives best with partners who won't have any demands or expectations of "goodness" from her.
- I find that she shines better as a character when there is initially some kind of antagonistic element or conflict in a relationship, or she is under extreme duress from outside the relationship. Basically, situations where she feels under threat, and she has to lie and put on a façade of someone lovestruck in order to keep herself safe.
- I'm suuuuper down for darker scenarios. When it comes to Ruby I have a particular fondness for sibling incest/pseudo-incest in just about all forms because of canon, but I'm also broadly interested in horror/romance as a genre, and other taboos like age gap, dubious consent, etc. etc. Don't be afraid to ask me if I'd be willing to try something!
- Relationships with an abusive partner are on the table but require discussion, I'm a little picky about the dynamics I'm willing to play out with that. (Cesare 🥺)
- I also really enjoy any situations that tie two characters together, like A/B/O, vampire/sire, Sentinel/Guide, soulmate scenarios that are twisted - characters inextricably and unwillingly bound together by forces outside their control, whether it's unwilling on both sides or something one-sidedly forced on another. Even a Hades & Persephone situation would be fun!
- She is not made for scenarios focused on combat and action genre. Ruby isn't a fighter and I have no interest in developments where she becomes capable in that way. She is only ever a recipient of violence, or is rescued by it, so if you want a battle couple then you're in the wrong place, I'm afraid.
Fave.
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arranged marriage
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possessiveness
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co-dependency
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power dynamics
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predator/prey dynamics
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dark romances
Yes.
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royalty/servant
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soulmates & bonding
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enemies to lovers
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corruption arcs
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hurt/comfort
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sibling incest
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age difference
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breakups & exes
Maybe.
OOC Limit.
↻ = both/either
⇽ = as the subject
⇾ = as the actor
⚠ = ic limit
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SMUT
preferences
Same as above, a little TL;DR about Ruby & Sex as well as my smut interests, favourites, and preferences! Otherwise, jump straight to the kink list.
- I'm an introspective writer, so my smut tags are pretty heavy on the character examination. Just as a blanket warning! I'm not good at smut threads where I don't get wordy about thoughts and feelings!!
- I also tend to write out sounds like moans in dialogue, similar to how it's done in manga and manhwa. I just like the effect of it more than [she moans] with no dialogue to break things up, but if it's off-puttingly cringey then just say so and I'll leave it out. 👌
- Despite (usually) being a virgin, Rudbeckia has a very transactional attitude towards sex – it's something to be offered in exchange for her safety, just like any other trade. As long as someone needs her for her body, they'll keep her alive. She won't say so unless she has reason, but that's how she thinks of it, so even in the most otherwise healthy circumstances, consent can sometimes be a little wobbly with her. I like to play with this, but if you want to avoid it, I can absolutely craft a situation where it doesn't apply!
- Ruby is 100% submissive, both in D/S terms and in her general demeanour. With a partner she trusts, she could be coaxed into being a little more assertive, but for the most part her anxieties and hang-ups mean she'll default to a desire to please and a tendency to defer to her partner's lead. During sex, anyway. If she's trying to secure her safety via sex, whether for transactional or marital reasons, she will come onto someone first.
- She's likely to approach sex with a sort of "lie back and take it" attitude, so I find it a lot of fun to pair her with characters that won't hesitate to push her around and be a little more forceful in order to keep her attention on them. I really enjoy characters that will push her boundaries, e.g. ignore her saying "wait" or "slow down" unless they think she really means it. I know that can veer a little close to dubcon for some people, though that wouldn't necessarily be my intent with a scene like that!
- In general, huge fan of partners trying to wring sincerity out of Ruby via sex. Fucking her until she cries, edging her to get an honest confession out of her, putting her in vulnerable positions where she can't hide her reactions, making her admit she wants more and beg for it, etc. All manner of bullying (affectionate) to crack open her protective shell!
- While she has no problems using her own body as a tool for her survival, she also has a lot of shame and self-consciousness that surfaces the more kindly someone treats her. She isn't confident in her sexuality; she's easily embarrassed, and skittish when vulnerable. She becomes anxious and guilty when she experiences pleasure, often fearing that she'll suffer in some way for it later. Basically, sex with her isn't always simple and straightforward. Being raised abusively Catholic twice over has fried her brain in a lot of ways!!
- One super specific thing I really dislike is casual degradation and name-calling in otherwise normal dirty talk, e.g. a sudden "what a good slut you are" out of the blue. It's not a complete deal-breaker if that's how a character would talk. But it'll be off-putting to Ruby rather than sexy, and I personally don't enjoy it in smut.
- Overall, there are blurry lines of consent and anxiety and fear I can tread with Ruby where things will still come out sexy – I very much like to play around with those elements! – but pushing straight into abuse, violence, degradation, etc., especially where the character is acting with malicious intent, it'll just become a miserable experience of Ruby being terrified out of her mind, and I don't really have fun playing that out in the context of sex. In a broader scenario, it's on the table! But unpleasant/painful sex isn't my thing.
- I'm pretty open to most kinks that aren't outright on my "hard no" list, even the ones I'm not hugely into if they're something my thread partner wants to play with. The main thing I do get squeamish about is detailed descriptions of... gross? sensory details and unsanitary acts, especially when it involves mouths. Excessive amounts of saliva, spitting, snowballing, and some food play tend to set off my gag reflex. If you're ever unsure, just ask!!
Fave.
Yes.
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vaginal sex
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oral sex
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breath play
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exhaustion
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overstimulation
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feral behaviours
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dubious consent
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punishment/discipline
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incestuous dynamics
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public & semi-public
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chikan
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soft facials
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rough sex
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sensory deprivation
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tribadism
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cock warming
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purity & corruption
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loss of virginity
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knotting
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monsters & non-human
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face-fucking
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dirty talk
⇽
mind break
⚠
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mind control & hypnotism
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free use
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costumes
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roleplay
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consensual non-consent
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light fearplay
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Maybe.
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⚠
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⚠
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⚠
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food play
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pegging
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anal sex
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infidelity
OOC Limit.
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pregnancy
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filth/unsanitary
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scat, watersports, etc.
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saliva/spitting
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vore
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guro
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snowballing
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feeding/weight gain
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fisting
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hard facials
↻ = both/either
⇽ = as the subject
⇾ = as the actor
⚠ = ic limit
CLICK BOLD ITEMS FOR LINKED NOTES
NOTES.
SHIPPING—
she's not a bad person, but she'll never be a kind or selfless one even at her best, and imo reassurance that she doesn't need to be "good" to deserve love makes for a better arc than encouraging her to be "better" at all.
if it's her partner that's being redeemed, i've got no problems! being the way she is, ruby won't make any efforts towards redeeming someone else – if someone loves her, she couldn't care less whether they're good or evil, and if they don't love her then she'd be too afraid to interfere in the first place. but having someone redeemed as part of an overarching psl narrative, or by developing feelings for a helpless and timid person like her, all that kind of stuff is a-okay!!
broadly, ruby is also not suited to traditional domesticity. she'll never be a wholesome uwu sweet wife unless it's a performance she's putting on to please someone – so if you want toothless domesticity out of her, it will always be fake, and she'll always be thinking about it as a transaction. i'm 100% willing to play out that kind of domesticity, but it's a tense and unhappy scenario for her even if she falls in love. the real ruby is sullen and mean and prefers the company of monsters over people; domesticity has to be a little bit twisted to suit her.
but secondly, ruby is NOT a character suited to being a parent, and she wouldn't be a happy mother. this goes double for arranged marriages, where the pregnancy is essentially taking place under duress and is yet another way in which ruby has control of her body taken away from her. in any situation where a relationship with ruby involves the expectation of children, the only happy ending possible is doing away with that expectation entirely for ruby's sake.
KINKS—
as noted above, i really don't like sudden casual degradation as "normal" dirty talk if it hasn't been discussed prior as part of the dynamic. it completely ruins the vibe for me and i won't know how to respond. if your character is going to start throwing around "slut" etc., talk to me about it first!!
if we've already got established CR, i don't mind skipping to a point where she's gotten comfortable just for convenience, though i'm also very happy to play out the discomfort and development over time in a longer psl! i think it's really fun to have a character work through issues and trauma via deliberate kink scenes. if you want to lean more into the actual fear for a more abusive and controlling dynamic, that's also doable!!